It is human psychology that we need routine and structure to feel safe. But when we are anxious sometimes this can lead to controlling behaviours, OCD tendencies and upset and frustration that we cannot stop our world or control our world from changing and evolving.

You may have seen or heard online various things about what you can and can’t control Stephen Covey shares 3 circles, the circle of control the inner circle, circle of influence things you can influence but may not have direct control over, then the circle of concern (sometimes known as the circle of no control.

When dealing with anxiety structure can be so valuable. Building in repetitive routines, actions and a lifestyle that supports you. Creating your non negotiables for health. This could be things such as morning meditation, not drinking alcohol, getting to bed by a certain time, going to a weekly yoga class. This sense of structure and self-care is nourishing and supportive.

When my anxiety was at its peak I...

Hello My Lovely’s,

I’ve created this guide to support you during this difficult period. We all endure periods through our lives of uncertainty and although this handbook has been created during this unprecedented times it is valuable at anytime.

A very brief intro to me. I’m Susi McWilliam, Author, Speaker, Anxiety Expert, Meditation and Mindfulness Coach, Advanced Reiki Healer, Essential Oil Enthusiast, Qualified Relax Kids Coach, Life and Spiritual Coach and Founder of the Be Free Coaching method for Anxiety, Stress and Depression. I own and run The Sanctuary a Wellbeing, Healing and Creative space in Belhelvie, North east Scotland. I personally had struggled with anxiety and panic attacks from the age of 15, suffered periods of depression and ill health for almost 2 decades. I now support others in these areas educating in support tools for mental, emotional, physical and spiritual health.

A little bit about uncertainty. As human beings we have...

December Ritual

Are you ready to design your best year yet? Christmas can invoke so many emotions from joy, sadness, anxiety, loneliness and peace. Why not turn the festive season into something to truly celebrate and enjoy

've created this wee ritual and reflection following on from a really rubbish last Christmas. Last Christmas was sad, cold and far from festive. This year I'm switching it up. Want to join me? Grab Your favourite festive oil. Pop a drop in your palms and take a deep inhale.

Lets look at how you want your Christmas and New Year to feel. Get clear on how you want to show up. Set some intentions, kick back and enjoy!

Find a quiet space. Grab a pen, paper and a warm drink. Here’s some questions to write and reflect on:

How was your November?

What do you need to celebrate, what was successful?

What did you not enjoy about November?

Bring forward the successes and leave the things you didn’t enjoy firmly in the past. That month is gone!

This is the last...